How to communicate well: interpersonally, in teams, and on stage

Links

• CodeCrafters (Sponsor)
• Steve Jobs iPhone Introduction (2007)
• Steve Ballmer "Developers"
• Bill Clinton "I did not have sexual relations"
• Tejas's First Talk (JSConf EU)
• Tejas at React Summit (The "Sweaty Room" Talk)
• Amy Cuddy's Power Posing TED Talk
• Diazno on ConTejas
• "Thin Slicing" (Ambady & Rosenthal)
• Mehrabian's 7-38-55 Rule (Original Paper)
• Elaboration Likelihood Model (Petty & Cacioppo)
• Cognitive Load & Multimedia Learning (Mayer/Wiley)
• Narrative transportation
• Exposure Therapy for Public Speaking (Frontiers)
• Breathing & Physiological Sigh (PMC)
• Deliberate practice
• Feedback
• Spacing + retrieval practice

Summary

In this episode, we're doing something different. Instead of analyzing code, we're analyzing the science of communication. I've spoken on hundreds of stages, from massive conferences to small, sweaty rooms, and I've learned that great speakers aren't born—they're built. We're going to dismantle the "talent" myth and replace it with a repeatable system. I'll walk you through the three levers of connection (Clarity, Trust, Energy), debunk the famous 7-38-55 rule, and give you practical frameworks like the "4 L's of Listening" and the "4 C's of Storytelling." Whether you're an engineer trying to get buy-in for a refactor or a founder pitching a VC, this is how you make your ideas inevitable.

Chapters

0:00:00 Intro

0:03:00 The Steve Jobs & Obama Standard

0:07:37 The 3 Levers: Clarity, Trust, Energy

0:10:33 Why Communication Fails (A Quick Diagnostic)

0:16:16 Debunking the 7-38-55 Rule (Mehrabian)

0:25:21 The 4 L's of Listening: Listen, Loop, Label, Lead

0:36:55 The One-Sentence Thesis

0:44:54 How to Change Minds (Elaboration Likelihood Model)

0:57:15 High Stakes vs. Low Energy: Reading the Room

1:03:00 Storytelling: The 4 C's (Context, Conflict, Choice, Change)

1:13:57 Delivery: Removing Fluff & Cognitive Load

1:21:00 Voice Control: Pace and Emphasis

1:24:40 Gestures: The "Check the Floor" Mental Model

1:30:56 Managing Nerves: Power Posing & Reappraisal

1:44:40 The 7-Day Action Plan

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